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At the start of every new year I get a diary and in the back of it I write down all the resolutions that I have for the year ahead. Then once the year is over I read through them and check off everything I have achieved, the things I still need to do and the stuff that doesn't even matter to me anymore.
I feel like writing down goals helps me keep focused on the things that I need to do to achieve them. The goals I had for 2016 were;
Buy our own house (done)
Get pregnant and have our first baby by the end of 2016 (done.)
Get engaged (I wasn't actually in control of this but achieved!)
Be healthy and workout reguarly (I have worked out all year...my diet hasn't been that clean though admittedly)
Pay more attention to personal grooming, hair, nails, tan etc (this has somewhat fallen to the way side.)
Go on at least one amazing holiday (definitely not done and unlikely to be achieved this year either.)

So evidently I have failed to reach all my goals but the main and most important ones I have.
2017 I want to focus on being a better person, in every way. I have found since becoming a mother that my priorities have changed a lot and I have become less selfish. 
My 2017 goals are centered around being the best mum that I can be and the best fiance. I want to make fitness a real focus. I have never had to work that hard to be in okay shape before, but since having a baby I have some real problem areas that I want to address to get my confidence back. By eating clean and working out I feel like I am setting a good example for Rafe, I think exercise is so good for both your body and your mind. A natural anti-depressant and I would really like him to be active as he grows up and enjoy sports. 

I also want to try and make my own money and maintain my independence financially after my maternity pay has ended. I am not planning on returning to my job full time, I had a baby to be a mum and I feel like Rafe will be too young to leave by September. I am not making any judgement of mothers who do work full time it's just not my preference. If there was something that I could do from home while looking after my baby then that would be ideal.

I also want to improve my confidence and maybe start meditation (could be tricky with a newborn). I am interested in the idea that practising positivity and gratitude in everyday life can help us achieve everything that we desire. A few years ago I read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and I have since purchased The Magic which is the second book in the series. I would highly recommend them,they tell us we have the power within us to attract whatever we want into our lives by our thought processes. I am intending on re-visiting The Secret and then reading The Magic.

Another book that I recently purchased but haven't yet got round to reading is 'Who says you can't? YOU DO' by Daniel Chidiac. I saw it had many positive reviews on Instagram and was intrigued by it's ideas. I have so far only read a few pages of it but it's about fulfilling your dreams and unlocking our potential.
I think the mind is an incredibly important factor in what we do or do not achieve in life. A lack of confidence or insecurity can hold us back so much, I have struggled with confidence for as long as I can remember. 
It was at it's worst when I was at school and I am so much better at dealing with things than I ever used to be but I think having a baby has really dug up some of my past anxiety issues. I had to drive Rafe to the hospital the other week, the first time I had taken him out in the car by myself as Richard was working. I was incredibly worried that I would be involved in an accident and put him in danger. After many tears and encouragement from Richard I did eventually force myself to do it and it was all completely fine and I felt so much better afterwards. I am aware how petty and ridiculous that sounds by the way but it just goes to show how powerful the human mind is, and if it has the power to hold us back so much and trap us then why shouldn't it have the power to change our lives and help us achieve anything and everything that we want.
I intend to do a full review on the books and everything I learn from them after I have read them. Some of them have tasks in them for the reader to complete and so this may take me some time, if I am going to do this I want to do it properly so I can fairly judge whether they have helped me.

Anyway the last couple of days have not been too easy in terms of being a new mum. Lots of cluster feeding (think Rafe may be going through a growth spurt) and not much sleep. Plus Rafe welcomed in the New Year by weeing on daddy during a nappy change...I had just got Richard back doing them aswell! But more on that in Rafe's one month update...which is Wednesday! Scary! Time goes so quick with a newborn! Will try and get his update posted on time, lots planned this week, I am actually seeing one of my friends every day! Hurrah! Escaping from the house for a bit will be very good for me I think...Although housewife duties may suffer for it!
Hope everybody had a lovely New Years Eve. We stayed in and watched telly...you know you are getting old when that's all you want to do...and you are seriously considering calling it a night and heading off to bed by 10pm! We made it to midnight though. Sorry this New years post is late...but everything I do tends to be late these days! 
Happy New Year!

Jx
 

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